Photo by Tsu Nellis
Cause here we go again folks! The school year is upon us here in the lovely Midwest. I realize that in a lot of places school has already started… but perhaps you can still use this lovely thought as you’re sending your child back to school this year.
Speaking of THIS year. Its a big one for us. My BABY is going into Kindergarten! And I’m so excited! And also terrified! And probably you know, I think there are maybe one or two staff members familiar with our family who are also somewhat terrified that our baby is going into Kindergarten because they have watched her grow up with two older brothers… Each season she would toddle in and out of the school walking a little taller, spouting a few more words, pointing out a few more numbers. This child is ready. MORE than ready. She’s loud and exuberant and wholly unapologetic about her ideas! I’m half way expecting a phone call home the first day explaining why she had to be removed from the principal’s office because she didn’t understand why she could not be the principal that day as she was certain it was her turn. Some of the prayers I say for these children, I tell you. They are something.
And my oldest. My spectrum child, M is heading into fourth grade and I cannot even believe it. Can not. He had such a rough year last year that really by February, I had mentally tossed all of his academic goals and just told him to focus on making it though his day every day. “Get to the end and try not to cry. Afterwards we’ll have snack.” Big goals. Thankfully, as always, M absorbs much more than we think, and he seems to be in an ok spot academically. He maybe be a little behind, but we have worked hard this summer to catch him up. He is set up for a great year so far. I have created a “transition plan” for him and his teacher reached out a couple of weeks ago to set up an appointment with us for an early meeting. He has seen and spent time in his classroom and time with his teacher. He is on great medication to help with his ADHD. I have LOTS of backups at the ready for homeschool co-ops, additional tutoring and learning plans to supplement his school work if necessary and I have to say, having that ready to go, has really made me feel more comfortable with him being in a regular classroom. Maybe because I’m not afraid to pull him out if needed. I’m not afraid to try something else if this just isn’t working. Sometimes you just cannot put a triangle where a circle should go, you just can’t. If you have a special needs child heading back to school and you are concerned about “where they are” academically or how they are going to do this year, remember this:
The flower that blooms in adversity is the most rare and beautiful of all. ~ Mulan
M’s first grade teacher once made an announcement to the parents of her students at the beginning of the year regarding homework and expectations, “They are young. They have a LONG road ahead. Please remember this. Pick your battles.” ~ Mrs. P, First grade teacher
And Mr. A, my middle child. *sigh* I’m not even sure what to say. I never worry about him; he doesn’t need it. He’s responsible, a self-starter, super smart, even gifted possibly. His biggest problem actually is that he indeed IS the middle child. He always feels that he doesn’t get enough attention, even when we go out of our way to give him extra attention. Oh, and possibly that he is sleep deprived. He has always been sleep-deprived. Like from birth. M just feels that if he is awake, Mr. A should be awake too. Its been difficult for Mr. A, although he is learning to fight back. We’re enrolling him in additional extra-curricular activities this year to try to broaden his world a little bit.
Good luck to everyone! We’re all in this together. #BeFierce