This was what my husband said to me after tiring of hearing about all of our church drama. I just stopped mid-sentence. Um, yeah, but its a church, not a doughnut. I do really really love gourmet doughnuts. You may recall my post here where I just “lost it” while waiting in line at Bennison’s, a local bakery here. Quick recap: I have 3 children plus DH and myself, I spend a minimum of $18 walking into a bakery and usually its more if we get loaves of bread or rolls, etc. Its hard for me to get there to begin with, what with all the wiggly ASDness and whatnot, and its usually a “treat” for my children. I don’t expect special treatment, but I do expect to get my “turn” in line after I’ve been waiting there for ages. In any case, I know what he meant. “Leave the drama alone”. Per our difficulty with our special needs child at church and other religious education goals not lining up, we have officially left our church and the notification e-mails have been sent and phone calls made. Here was my original post about that. I am more upset than I thought I would be, but I do think it was the right decision in the long term. I am most sorry that I have lost a couple of new, but good friends from the congregation due to just…. drama I guess. I’m not even sure what happened. Here are the reasons we left the church:
- Our spiritual journey is not aligned with that of the church and we can’t in good conscience continue along this path of religious education for our children.
- Our children are getting older and moving into the “big kid” classes. It is important to us to have a more structured environment for their religious education. At this time the staff, model and structure for caring for our ASD child does not meet our needs.
- We have felt that the church is becoming more and more committed to social outreach causes instead of nourishing the body and spirituality within the church.
- Along with ministering to those with regards to racial diversification, economic inequality and immigration reform, ministering to individuals with special needs and the families who care for them can indeed be its own method of “outreach” into the community and we would like to be in a place where this is more of a priority.
I was also especially hurt because our “spiritual journey” is pushing us in more of a conservative direction right now and its just not something that I ever thought I would be judged for. We don’t all take the same path.
Anyway, I’m off to Hewn. They have amazing croissants. 😉
Be Fierce. #Dropthatdoughnut